Parenting Tips

Q. I find myself screaming at my children all of the time! I feel terrible for screaming at them, but I become frustrated when they don’t listen.

- Denise, Mother of Two

A. First, you’re not alone. Countless parents have shared the same concern with me. I encourage you to stop screaming. Screaming indicates that you are not in control of a situation. Your child needs to know that you are in control because if you’re not in control of a situation, they will step right in and take control. So take a deep breath if you need to or walk away, but don’t scream. Remember to use a firm tone when reprimanding your child. It will show your child that you are in control. Oh, don’t repeat yourself either. Direct your child and then if he/she refuses to comply, warn your child.  If that doesn’t work, hand out a consequence immediately. This approach will save you time and save your vocal chords!

Q. My child is having trouble with his teacher.  What should I do?  Should I address my concerns with the teacher or go straight to the principal?

- Margaret, Mother of 4th Grader

A. First, talk to the teacher. Do not go straight to the principal. Schedule a conference with your son’s teacher and be honest with the teacher. Go into the meeting with an open mind and not in a confrontational way. Please do not talk about the teacher in a negative way to your son.  It could cause more harm. Most teachers really want the best for their students. Perhaps, she’s hard on your son because she thinks that he is not working to his fullest potential. It’s best that you and your son work with the teacher instead of against her.